I believe that gratitude is a simple and essential tool for maintaining the well-being of a relationship. When we speak of gratitude, we mean making our partners feel that we care, see their actions, and do not take them for granted. Even though being grateful and sharing that feeling can be very typical at the beginning of a relationship, it tends to decrease over time. This can happen due to falling into a routine, arguments, expectations, and relationships’ natural rhythm.
In this post, we will discuss some ways in which we can bring appreciation back to our relationship.
The best way to create gratitude practice towards our partner is to start one ourselves around our own lives. It can be as simple as listing five things for which we feel grateful when we wake up. Or you can do it before bed. This way, we begin to become more aware of the little wonders and not take them for granted. Then we can extend the same practice towards the people around us.
Start expressing gratitude! It doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture or speech, although this also has its magic. It may be telling your partner that you don’t take for granted what they just did and// or their commitment to the relationship. You can express this by saying, “I noticed that when I told you that I had a bad day at work, you took a moment to listen to me. I want you to know that you doing that meant a lot, and I am grateful for that and you.”
You can also show gratitude about their commitment to your relationship by saying, “I want you to know that I don’t take for granted that you choose to be with me every day. And I am deeply grateful for that. “Also, gratitude can be as simple as “Thanks for calling the doctor and making an appointment, that helped a lot.”
Start with an “I statement.” “I want to thank you” “I want you to know …”
Mention the action. “I want to thank you for helping me organize the kitchen, even when today was my turn.”
Add meaning to the action at the end. “By helping me, I felt like you were supporting me” or “It shows me that you take into consideration the things we talk about.”
Even though we don’t necessarily move around the world waiting for someone to tell us that we are special. Nor expecting recognition or a special celebration every time we do something good. However, it is nice when someone takes the time to appreciate us, especially for just being. And this applies not only to romantic relationships but to friendship, family, and work relationships. Thanking other people is a strategy that strengthens relationships. It helps us create more transparent and effective intimacy and communication.
I would love to hear from you! How do you feel when someone thanks you? What are some of the ways you can begin to implement appreciation in your day-to-day life? You can leave me a comment, or you can write me an email.